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How to Help a Grieving Friend

My July book for the Non-Fiction Five Challenge was How to Help a Grieving Friend by Stephanie Grace Whitson. I started to read Word Freak for my July book but it was just too long and very interesting in parts and not in others and I just can't finish it. So I'm going to have to pick a new book for my fifth one of the challenge, if that's okay, Joy? I know it's a challenge but with all that's gone on in my life this past month I just can't muster up the energy to slog through a book I don't really care for.

Anyway, funny that I picked the book I did when I made my initial list. I am the grieving friend right now. Probably less than an hour after I wrote my last post last Sunday about my crocheting, I got "the call" that I knew was coming at some point. My sister called to say my mom wasn't doing well. My mom passed away the next day, Monday, July 9. I actually read the book Wednesday or Thursday of this past week (it's a really short book).

I really liked the book and recommend it to anyone. It will help you know what to do and what not to do when someone is grieving. Stephanie lost her best friend and both parents within a short time of each other, but most of the book is how she dealt with the grief of losing her husband of 27 years 5 years later. So my feelings aren't exactly the same as hers, losing my mom is incredibly hard of course but losing a spouse is a whole other ballgame I think.

There is one thing she said not to do that I disagree with. She said "Skip inviting our family to organized family events for awhile. They are just too hard. We don't feel like a family anymore." I would just change that to something like please invite us but please understand if we don't feel up to coming. That way the grieving person can make the decision whether or not to attend something.

I learned quite a bit about what to do and not to do through my own grief this week.

-Send a card! Send a card. Send a card. It's something simple but means so much.
-If you don't know what to say, a hug and I'm so sorry is enough, it means a lot. You don't have to have any elegant words.
-Bring over a plate of cookies, a pint of ice cream, some simple meals like buns and lunch meat, anything little like that is appreciated. "Comfort food" was what we all seemed to crave.
-Offer to watch someone's young kids if they have any. I had some neighbors who came through for me big time with my 2 little ones. I can't thank them enough.
-Any little thing you can think of to bless someone is appreciated. My hairdresser not only came in early one day so I could have a fresh haircut for the funeral, but she didn't charge me for the cut and style. That was a huge blessing.

I know I have probably missed many opportunities to bless a grieving friend or family member. I feel so bad about that. You don't have to even be really close to the deceased or to the survivors, a card still means a lot. You may already know this but I guess I was pretty clueless - I always felt like unless I knew the deceased personally, I didn't need to attend the visitation and/or funeral. But I realize now that if I know one of the survivors, I should still attend for just a little while if possible, and if not, again SEND A CARD.

I hope you don't mind my putting my own thoughts out there relating to the subject of the book.

Crocheting again

I got the crochet bug again! When I started this blog I was in the mood for crocheting (hence the "Hooks" in the name of my blog). I learned to crochet about 10 years ago and crocheted A LOT for about 5-7 years. I crocheted a few afghans for Lindsey (first of 2 beautiful, wonderful, sweet, little girls adopted from China) while we were waiting for her. Once she came home I finished an afghan I had started for myself, but then haven't done a whole lot of crocheting since (hmmm, 2 little girls, age 4 and 1, plus a husband and a teenager, plus my love of reading - wonder why my crochet time has been so minimal????? LOL). I did crochet an afghan for Allison while waiting for her to come home.

Anyway the other day I was straightening up the living room and saw the afghan I made for myself on the back of the couch....

...and I decided, I want to get into crocheting again! We recently put up a swingset for the girls and I can crochet in between pushing them on their swings (as well as other times of course). I made this dishcloth* while doing just that...

...and also this....

It's a toilet paper cover, a little old fashioned but I like it!

So the last few days I've been going through my zillion patterns and picking out some more things I want to make. I hope I have more pics of finished items to post in the coming weeks.

Anyone else into books AND hooks? :-)

*I really don't even like using crocheted dishcloths. LOL They fade really quickly and I prefer to use a regular cloth. But they're easy and quick to make.

June Reads

JUNE READS

FICTION

-Breathing Lessons by Anne Tyler, 4
-This Heavy Silence by Nicole Mazzarella, 4
-The Other Side of the Bridge by Mary Lawson, 4 **

NON-FICTION

-The Color of Water by James McBride, 3.75
-Bryson City Secrets by Walt Larimore, 3

**Favorite book of the month

(Ratings on a scale of 1-5)